Without Support a Structure Will Collapse

One thing I am learning is that having support is one of the most important things to getting healthy.  I believe first you need your mindset in the correct place then you need people to help you.  Anything you do in life you need help whether it is correction, teach or just someone to encourage you.  I have to say I am so blessed to have the support of so many people: My husband, my family, my in-laws, my friends and my co-workers.  I recently heard stories of people wanting to achieve fitness goals and families/friends are less than supportive.  Whether it is saying that they'll be too skinny, too muscular, etc.  One story consisted of a pudgy guy who is now in shape having their wife say that she misses his pudginess.  Seriously?!? "Hey honey....I know you are healthier now but I liked you better when you were a walking heart attack." Yup....that is one way to say "I love you."  Chris and I are very blessed that we are battling it together.  We do not have expectations for each other.  We love each other with the extra pounds and will love each other without them.  Chris and I both may be fairly muscular when done.  We have an agreement for it to be healthy muscular and nothing like the extremes.  I want to look and feel fit.  I am getting so much support now and hope to continue to be getting it as I slim down.  My grandmother went through a situation that she lost weight due to diabetes and friends told her she was too skinny.  In reality she was healthy but all of the negativity built up and she gained the weight back.  I think people get used to seeing a person at a heavier weight and the loss is a visual shock.  I say if the person is losing weight naturally and the end result does not produce a Jack Skellington then good for them.  Ribs showing is not cool....neither is seeing all of the vertebrae in the back.  Now there is a specific look I am thinking of.  I saw a person in a grocery store one time that I could see all of her bones it was very sad.  I don't know if she was ill from an eating disorder or a disease but it saddened me just as much as seeing someone who is morbidly obese.  (Yes it saddens me to look in the mirror and know I did not care enough about myself to take care of myself- but I understand this now).  Thank you for all of the support and just continue to be positive to one another!